Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Forgive In Order To Be Forgiven

Are you holding on to grudges and pains in your heart because of broken relationships caused by betrayal of trust? Are you still feeling the pain of a bruised heart because you were left alone by the love of your life for somebody else? Did you feel cheated when a close friend spilled out to others the secrets you confided to him/her? Is the spirit of unforgiveness and bitterness lingering in your heart causing you sleepless nights, unnecessary tears and sickness of body and soul? Learn to forgive and forget. The Bible says, forgive so that your sins maybe forgiven also. Yes, I know how hard it is to forgive as long as we are still feeling the pain in our hearts. But we can do the act of forgiveness by saying it orally that we forgive the person who hurt us and pray to God that we can also forget the bitterness it brought to us. Try not to get even or to equalize things on your own. This might lead to revenge which is sinful. Turn over the person's wrongdoing to God and relate to God all the pains and heartaches you are suffering due to that person's wrongful act. Ask God to resolve the conflict between the two of you and rest your case to God. In due time, your wounds will heal and you can actually forget the wrong that was done to you. It will be easy to forgive and forget if we keep in our minds that we also hurt other people before. We are not clean ourselves. If we can still ask forgiveness from the person we hurt and if we can restitute the damage we have done, then maybe that person may forgive us and we can have genuine reconciliation and peace of mind. Never dwell on past hurts and pains. Surrender them all to the Lord. Focus on love, forgiveness, joy, reconciliation and peace in your mind and you will experience a more pleasant and blissful life. Did not God say that the kingdom of God is in our hearts?

Tags: God, Jesus Christ, Holy Spirit, Forgiveness, Key To Joy and Peace, Reconciliation, Happiness, Love, Kingdom of God, Peace of Mind

Posted by Mel Avila Alarilla


Tey said...

it does feel good to forgive someone but it sometimes good to let the right time come so everything will be real and not hypocrisy. Thanks for sharing Mel
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Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Tey,
Yes, it is good to forgive and forget although time will heal the pain in our hearts so that it will be easier to forgive and move on. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you always.

Hobo ........ ........ said...

I agree.
Thanks !

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Hobo,
Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless.

Mónica said...

hi mel!!! as much time without coming this way!

Merry Christmas! and

Happy New Year 2009!

I will see you soon


Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Monica,
I'm so glad to hear from you. Merry Christmas too. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you always mi amiga.

bingkee said...

One of the hardest commands of God is to forgive . I honestly have a difficulty of forgiving but remembering Jesus saying "Forgive others so you will be forgiven by my Father in heaven" always rings in my mind and in my ears. Woe to me who is also sinful has been forgiven and redeemed by God through the death of Jesus and I cannot forgive others? That's the the only thing ---this truth ---that helps me to forgive.
And then what makes me forgive all the more is the truth from Romans 12:17-21.

tin-tin said...

forgiveness is the perfect gift for christmas

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Bingkee,
Yes, if we can compare all our sins we committed and the grace of God in forgiving all of them, it will be easier to forgive others. Of course, it is harder to forget especially if the pain still lingers. This is where the grace of God comes in. We can ask for the grace of forgiveness so that we can forgive and forget the sins of others to us. Thanks for your inspired comments. God bless you always.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Tintin,
Yes, forgiveness is a divine attribute and is most appropriate on Christmas time. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you always.

Darlyn said...

yeah... we need to to forgive in order to be forgiven.. but sometimes we forgive others but neglect to forgive ourselves especially if we done something wrong.. we can't move on with our life too if we never forgive ourselves.

Merry Christmas in advance and Happy New Year

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Darlyn,
Yes, I agree with you. We must also forgive ourselves and move on. No use crying over spilt milk. What was done was done and can no longer be undone. Thanks for your visit and comments. Merry Christmas and a Prosperous New Year to you too my young friend. God bless you always.

Anonymous said...

Focus on love, forgiveness, joy, reconciliation and peace in your mind and you will experience a more pleasant and blissful life.
That is a good thought, but invoking the great sky fairy to "help" is not: thanks for giving me yourself to hate.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Anonymous,
Ha,ha, everybody is entitled to his own opinion. I respect your opinion my friend. God bless.

"Today, if you hear His voice, do not harden your hearts" (Hebrews 4:7b)


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