Sunday, January 24, 2010


How often have we been in a situation where somebody hurt us so bad that we just cannot forgive the person much less forget what she/he has done to us? How we relived in our minds the bitter details of the hurt over and over again? How we could not sleep at night, tossing and turning because we were just so upset by the incident that produced the pain and bitterness in our hearts. Forgive? Ha, easier said than done when the pain and bitterness still linger in our hearts and minds. But that is what we are always doing to God. We hurt Him so bad with all kinds of sins that produce thorns in His heart and sufferings in His mind. But He is always there ready and willing to forgive us every time we return to Him from our prodigal ways. Many times we even treat Him as our avenue of last resort when we have nowhere else to go. We even entertain doubts in our minds whether He could really fix our troubles which were of our own making in the first place. God admonished us to forgive those who have sinned against us, even saying that if we could not forgive them neither would our sins be forgiven. That is perfect divine justice unlike our own set of double standard of justice. Even if we still feel the pain and the bitterness is still there, we should strive to orally forgive the person who hurt us so we can move on. We will have a more peaceful sleep at night and the joy and peace that such forgiveness can bring, for in the process, we are imitating God who always forgive and forget. Oh by the way, God will surely avenge you if you were truly oppressed by the person who hurt you. "HE WHO HAS NO SIN, LET HIM CAST THE FIRST STONE" (John 8:7).

Tags: God, Jesus Christ, Holy Spirit, Forgiveness, Forgive and Forget, Pain, Hurt, Bitterness, Avenue of Last Resort, Troubles, Double Standard of Justice, Move On, Peaceful Sleep, First Stone, Gospel, Word of God, Holy Bible

Posted by: Mel Avila Alarilla


kathy said...

Aray! Ansakit! hehehe.. Kasi tumpak lahat ng sinabi mo tungkol sa forgiveness to people who have hurt me when God always forgives my sins. My only consolation is that I am trying to heal from this bad habit and I ask God's forgiveness for being like this all the time...

It's true rin Kuya na forgiveness is so easy to say but really hard to do lalo na kung sobra kang nasaktan... But we have to immitate Jesus' life, so we have to learn how to frgive like He sis...

Salamat po sa post na ito... It gives me the extra ummphh to try harder in my quest to forgiving people who have hurt me...


Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Kathy,
Yes, it is really easier said than done especially when the hurt and pains are still there and the memories of the hurt still lingers in our mind. Ang dapat lang nating gawin ay sabihing we forgive the person and forget about him/her. The Holy Spirit will effect the healing process until such time that you will no longer feel the pain. Kalimutan na lang dahil habang inaalala natin ay lalong lumalalim ang sugat. Isipin na lang natin na marami rin tayong nasaktan at hindi nakahingi nang kapatawaran. Yung hindi magpapatawad ay hindi makakatulog sa gabi at hindi magkakaroon nang tunay na kapayapaan sa puso. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you all always.

Mama Ko said...

Ouch! so stop hurting someone para walang kasalanan hehehe just kidding. That is very true Sir Mel easy said than done, pero ang dali lng naman magpapatawad, hirap nga lng makalimut. I forgive all my enemies na nga, once mailabas ko ang galit ko tapos na. Well, we are just human not God, kaya ang iba hindi nakakaforgive kaagad. God always forgive those who confess, he is good and just. Thanks for this post Sir mel. God bless

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Shy,
If we cannot forget the hurt a person did to us, the pain will always linger in our hearts and mind and a spirit of bitterness will settle in our soul. It will affect our judgment and relationship with other people. We will be overly sensitive to what others say or do to us to the point na balat sibuyas na tayo. Although it is really very hard to forgive, still we must strive to do so to have a peace of mind and a clear conscience. Thanks for your visit and honest comments. God bless you all always.

Senior Debutante said...

When I was younger, I never believed in forgiving someone who hurt me and who never showed remorse. I couldn't forgive someone who didn't need it.
But the offender usually is the first to move on and the offended is left nursing a wound. That's unfair, I told myself. From then on, I forgive non matter how slow, getting the strength to do so with God's help. And it works!

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Senior Debutante,
I like what you said in, "the offender is usually the first to move on and the offended is left nursing a wound." That's because, most of the time, the offender was not even aware that he has hurt someone. Maybe he was overwhelmed by a problem during that time and he inadvertently directed his ire on another person. We must always give other persons the benefit of the doubt and just shrug off offensive statements. Thanks for your visit and meaningful comments. God bless you always.

"Today, if you hear His voice, do not harden your hearts" (Hebrews 4:7b)


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