Thursday, July 28, 2011

Self Fulfilling Prophecy


When was the last time we worry about so many things and found out later that all our worse fears came true? When was the last time we berated our kids about their faults and told them they will grow up someday to become good for nothing? And when was the last time we nag our spouse on his/her obvious faults? Beware, all that we profess with our mouths may become self fulfilling prophecies. Remember, we have the power to bless or curse anybody by the power of the spoken words. And more often than not, negative pronouncements carry with them intense emotional undertones that are more liable to become true.

Kids believe whatever their parents say to them. Parental pronouncements are imbedded deep in their subconscious minds and they are liable to act out the roles delineated to them by their parents. So we must be very careful what we say to our kids, to our spouses and even to ourselves in moments of anger and emotional outbursts. We do not want the things that we say to them or to ourselves to find realization, do we not?

Better to give positive love affirmations and encouragements to our kids, our spouses and even to ourselves. They will even reinforce the good traits imbedded in our characters. Careful, careful!


Tags: Self Fulfilling Prophecies, Traits, Positive Affirmations, Negative Pronouncements, The Power of the Spoken Words

Posted by: Mel Avila Alarilla

18 comments:

SeaSpray said...

So very true Mel. Good post!

One thing parents don't realize is don't call them "Bad". What they do is bad ..maybe ..but they aren't bad. labeling kids can cause them not to try to be good, etc because the parent already thinks the worst and so why bother.

I never called our sons names.

We addressed behavior, but no name calling.

Thanks for this post. :)

God bless you Mel. :)

Felisol said...

Well, written and thought.
The seeds we sow, will later on become either blossoms or weeds.
Let's all bear that in mind every single day.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Seaspray,
I miss you my friend. I agree with what you said. We address the behavior but no name calling. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you always.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Felisol,
Yes, I agree with you. We can not harvest blossoms if we have planted weeds and vice versa. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you always.

Arvin U. de la Peña said...

love kids at all time..may mga bata na matampuhin..kaya dapat iwasan na pagsalitaan ng hindi maganda..

HoneyBUZZin said...

Dropby to say HI..Have a blessed weekend.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Arvin,
Hindi lang yun, yung negative words na sinasabi natin sa kanila ay tumatatak sa isipan nila at maaaring magkaganuon na nga sila. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you always.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi HoneyBuzzin,
Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you always.

kimmy said...

yes, I think we have to be more positive in handling things or making our points, and if that proves to be too difficult for us, maybe being 'less negative' would do, instead of saying something really nasty, let's try to make it sound less derogatory and critical, and maybe eventually, we'll finally learn to be positive..

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Kimmy,
Yes, I agree with you. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you always.

chubskulit said...

I agree with your last paragraphed Kuya. Sa amin ni John I am the positive thinker, he always assume the worse in every scenario which is good in a way din but I prefer to be positive all the time.

jellybelly said...

Negative comments doesn't help. Who was it that said, if you can't say anything nice just keep quiet. That's a good rule to live by :)

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Rose,
Yes, being positive aligns us with the will of God who wants nothing but our own good. Even seemingly negative events becomes beneficial to us if we surrender them to God for His divine will to prevail. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you all always.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi JellyBelly,
Yes, that should always be the rule of the thumb. If we have nothing good to say, it is better to just remain silent. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you all always.

Clarissa said...

This post is soo true!Ako naman nadadala sa pagiging positive ng asawa ko~I guess I have changed a lot as a better person now than before. Thank you for this wonderful post!

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Clarissa,
We all have different traumatic experiences in life and somehow that affects our outlook in life. But having a strong faith in God's goodness and His unfailing love for us gives us the impetus to have a positive outlook in life. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you all always.

☆♥Shydub♥☆ said...

This may sound scary Sir mel, but it's really true. Thanks for sharing.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Shy,
Yes, we must be very careful not to put negative labels to our children for they may become that way. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you all always.

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