Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Tolerance (A Lost Virtue As Rare As Diamonds)

Tolerance means patience and understanding, and knowing that people have individual differences. Tolerance is putting ourselves in the shoes of the other person and always giving him the benefit of the doubt.

Tolerance has many enemies- impatience, bitterness, egoism, hatred, bigotry, antagonism, cynicism and many more. It has few friends. Among them are: love, patience and perseverance.

Whenever you feel that you cannot tolerate a person or a group of persons, reverse your thinking processes. Did it ever occur to you that, that person or group of persons, cannot also tolerate you? Maybe the problem is with you and not with them. We cannot change other people, but we can always change ourselves.

Next time that you feel that you cannot tolerate a person or a situation, try to redirect your focus on your own thoughts and emotions. You may just be mad at yourself for your failures in life, and may just be seeing a reflection of yourself in them. Let us rid ourselves of our own blind spots. Then we will see ourselves as others see us.

Martin Luther King - Free At Last

Posted by Mel Avila Alarilla


Noushy Syah said...

Yeah rite, this is so's hard but not impossible to do.

It's just like looking in the mirror...what we say or do is the reflections of own self, thus,
be nice to others in the same way, as you want others to be nice with you.

...and sometime we have to accept the terms of others...

Keep smiling Mel, and all the best yea.

TK said...

"we live on the same, small planet,
we breathe the same air,
we cherish the future of our children...
and we are all MORTAL"--JFK

HeiressChild said...

hi mel, i had to smile as i was reading this. sometimes i say, "my tolerance level for nonsense is low." by that i mean some people have so much junk with them, and i just don't want to tolerate what i deem to be nonsense. perhaps what i term as nonsense might be real to other people, so i'll really work on being more tolerant in those areas. however, i still don't like nonsense. *lol* i know, tolerance. good post and very timely for me.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Thanks Noushy, you're always so nice and generous with words. Thanks for your vist. Smile. Have a nice day.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Thanks tk for the very profound quote from JFK. I appreciate that. Thanks for the visit. Smile. God bless and have a nice and meaningful day.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Thanks too Heiresschild. We really have to understand the saying "different strokes, for different folks." The same freedom and privilege we reserve for ourselves must also be reciprocated by extending the same to others. In other words, if we can't understand them, we just tolerate them. They have as much freedom and privileges on this planet as we do. Whew, that made me dizzy. *lol* I hope you got my point, 'cause I didn't, he, he, *lol* Smile. God bless and have a wonderful and tolerant day.

HOMERO said...

Muchas gracias por tus comentarios en el poema publicado. Un abrazo. Homero.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Homero,
Thanks for visiting my blog and for your Spanish comments. I appreciate that. I'll be brushing up on my Spanish to really understand the wonderful Spanish posts at World United Bloggers. Maybe Noushy and Miss Kurdapya can help me on this. He, he, *lol* Gracias and God bless you and have a nice and pleasant day.

Mississippi Songbird said...

Thank you for the post. Very thought provokng. God Bless you and your family.

Octavian said...

All very powerful videos. Thank you for posting them. I hope you are well.

Arthur said...

That's what I say: If you're talking good about someone or something, say it. If no, better be silent, and say nothing.

Big greetings, big hugs

Sweet Dreams, from the bottom of my Heart:

Gusthav said...

I think it's better to calm down, and drink some mate (mate is a kind of tea from my Argentina).

Greetings and hugs

Nice Day, with my whole soul:

Green Earth said...

Love to hear what you have to say. You are a special voice in the blogging community. Keep up the great work.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Mississippi Songbird,
I'm so blessed by your posts too. Whenever I seek inspiration, your blog is one of those I immediately seek to find inspiration and strength. Thanks for your visit. Smile. God bless and have a nice and beautiful day.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Oh I'm always well Octavian. Thanks for the prayer. he, he. *lol* Thanks for your regular visit here. I really appreciate that. Good luck on your advocacy on informationalism. I hope more people will be enlightened by your philosophy. Thanks again. Smile. God bless and have a nice and peaceful day.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

You got me laughing there Gusthav. I thought you really drink mates (spouses)in Argentina. He, he, *lol*
Congratulations on your being appointed, together with Arthur, as moderators for South America. Thanks for dropping by. Gracias. God bless and have a nice and wonderful day.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Yes I agree with you Arthur. Better to keep our mouths shut if there is nothing good that we can say to our fellow men. Word of wisdom from a youthful mouth. Thanks for dropping by and congratulations on your appointment (together with Gusthav)as moderators of WUB for South America. Both of you deserve it. God bless you with a wonderful and trouble free day.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Oh thanks for the wonderful compliment Greenearth but to God be the glory. I admire you too on the noble advocacies you are fighting for and for the artistic works that you shower the world from your creative genius. Keep on with your great endeavors in life. God will bless you more for them. Smile and have a nice and pollution free day.

Emmyrose said...


sorry for the late comment..

I'm a bit guilty with this I have high tolerance with physical pain but I am very impatient, although I try to be understanding with other people.

God bless you!

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Dear sis Emmyrose,
No, you're never too late. Tolerance is one of the key to peaceful coexistence with everybody. Thanks for the comment. God bless you with all the virtues for you to overcome all your trials in life.

"Today, if you hear His voice, do not harden your hearts" (Hebrews 4:7b)


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