Tuesday, March 11, 2008
Personal Change - The Secret To A Stress Free Life
THE SECRET TO A STRESS FREE LIFE
We are not happy with our situation in life so we change it. We are not happy with our work, so we resign and look for another job. We are not happy with our spouses, so we divorce him/her and look for another one. We are not happy with our children, so we try to distance ourselves as much as possible from them. When we are confronted with a situation we don't like, we immediately change it. But in the process, that does make us happy?
When we change a stressful situation- our work, our spouse, or anything else that give us stress, did that make us happy? No, it only made us happy at first but later on, the same symptoms reappear and we are back to square one where we wallow once again in stress and unhappiness.
Why? Because changing the situation is never the solution. Remember, we can never change another person. That person will change because he likes to change and not because we caused him to change. We cannot change the stressful situations in our lives either. Have we not noticed that life is never constant. It is always a case of ebb and flow, high and low, happiness and sorrow. One day you are up there in the clouds in happiness, and the following day, you are down there in the dumps with a desperate situation that threatens to tear you apart.
Why? Because life is like that. The only person who is truly happy and joyful in life irregardless of his external situations, is the person who has learned to make a personal change within and accepts whatever fate hands down to him. He can live in extreme equanimity through the good days as well as through the bad days. He does not attempt to change people, he adjusts to them. He does not attempt to change situations, he rides them through. He is like the bamboo tree that bends down when a fierce storm is present. Then he regains his full stature as soon as the storm is gone. The sturdiest trees are those that survived the strongest and fiercest storms in life.
You want to be truly happy in life? Then learn to trust God with all your heart and accept everything that He gives you whether good or bad. In the end, when we have passed His tests, we will surely attain true happiness and joy in life.