Friday, April 11, 2008

Paradigm - The Curse of First Impression


 PARADIGM- THE CURSE OF FIRST IMPRESSION
Paradigm is what people originally think about us. It is what people associate us with. It is the representative idea that is evoked in the minds of people that is readily associated with our name. Paradigm is practically the first impression that people associate us with. It is a built in reputation surrounding us and is very hard to erase in the minds of people. Even if we have already changed, we are still associated with a particular paradigm.

Those who have been truly born again and had a complete turnaround in character are particularly vulnerable to this kind of name association. A person who was known to be a drunkard, a womanizer and a heavy gambler, and who had a complete change in his life because of the power of the Holy Spirit, will have a hard time convincing people that he has really changed. The best thing for him to do is to stop convincing people about his miraculous change and just show them his transformed self.

Yes, it is only through the power of the Holy Spirit that we can completely change ourselves from our shameful past to our present glorious life. If only we could change our individual paradigms or the first impressions of people about us, that would be wonderful. Ah, but who cares. So long as we have already changed and are doing the will and purpose of God in our lives, that's all that counts.

Tags: Paradigm, First Impression, Holy Spirit, Glorious Life, Inspirational, Motivational, Uplifting, Feel Good

Posted by: Mel Avila Alarilla
Philippines
Inspirational/Motivational

45 comments:

Noushy Syah said...

Hi Mel..to change attitude or perceptive on something is not an easy task, especially on someone that known to do bad things in his life...but at the end of the day,as you said, who cares, he knows better of himself, and the most if he already changed,God knows better and that's what counts.

The only problem is perhaps he might get rejection in society since he is known for his bad paradigms, and to be accepted again, he has to be patience and be 'the real' him that has changed.
Sooner or later people will acknowledge his existence.

heiresschild said...

hi Mel, i always love when you change your blog on the front; it's always so beautiful! some people love to remember us when....when we were in sin, when we used to do this or do that which wasn't pleasing to God, but when we change, some of these same people want to then label us as holy rollers or say we think we're better than others. not so! it's actually not us thinking we so much of this or that, but it's those people who have those thoughts. as you said, we don't have to prove anything to anyone, but the Word of God tells us to let our lights shine before men/women that they will see our good works and our Father in Heaven will be then be glorified. a light shines, but makes no announcements that it's about to come on. when the switch is flipped, the light comes on and shines brightly. when the Holy Spirit indwells us, we shine that we might bring glory to our Father. good post Mel!

Arthur said...

Hi Mel, because of my name everyone says I'm a king (you know, king Arthur), but for me that's not bad, it's just that I'm not a king (but my Mother really is considered as a queen, so could I be a prince? then a king?).

I'm Arthur the future musician, nothing to do with the king.

big greetings and big hugs

Sweet Dreams, from the bottom of my Heart:
Arthur

Gusthav said...

Hi Mel, once it happened to me too, everyone thought I was a... scientist!!! (a scientist?? what have they drunk?)

Well, it was not bad for me, I simply apply for another career in my life, and science is not for me.

I wanna be a comedian, and maybe join Arthur if he creates a music band.

Greetings and hugs

Nice Day, with my whole soul:
Gusthav

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Noushy,
Thanks for your wonderful observations. Sometimes people could not erase their first impression of other people no matter how the person has changed. It is to the credit of that person if he stays positively changed rather than wallow back to his old sinful self. Thanks for your visit and comments my dear beautiful friend. God bless you and your loved ones always.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Heiresschild,
I am very sorry my friend if I have not been able to leave comments on your posts lately. I have been busy just blog hopping through different Search Engine Optimizations (SEOs)to increase traffic and ranking in my blogs in preparation for putting up commercial ads. I really have to do this to augment income for my family.
Regarding paradigms, born again Christians are so vulnerable to these due to the sudden change in the personality of the person. His former friends and associates, who were familiar with his old sinful self, just could not believe in the change. What sticks in their minds is their first impression of him. They can always accept the new person or just leave him for other like minded guys. Thanks for your visit and comments. God bless you and your loved ones always.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Arthur,
Yes, you can be King Arthur of Camelot fame since you have a kingly disposition. You can also sing and you love music just like the musical Camelot. I wonder who is Queen Genevere? Thanks for your visit and the dreamy comments my young friend. God bless you and your loved ones always.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Gusthav,
First impressions or paradigms are not lasting although they are very hard to erase in the minds of people who know us. The thing is, we just proceed with our lives no matter what they think of us. What matters is what God see in us. You will always be a good comedian my young friend. You will make many people happy and entertained by your zany antics. Thanks for your visit and wonderful comments my young friend. God bless you and your loved ones always.

c e e d y said...

hi mel,

hope you had a good weekend,
you are right about paradigm shifts..it is difficult on both fronts, one for a person to change and at the same time for others to accept.

i think one has to be true to oneself and not get frustrated and give up once we have decided to make that change in us.

have a great week

jennifer said...

Mel, this is so well written! And you are absolutely right. It is hard to overcome preconcieved notions that people have. I also agree that the best way to overcome is by actions and not words.

Great post!

Jennifer

SeaSpray said...

Hi...you've been tagged and invited to play. :)

zhoe wynz said...

action speak louder than word :)

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Ceedy,
Yes, that's the problem my friend. People can't just accept the fact that people can actually change. They always attach a certain paradigm to each person and when they talk with others, they always associate him with his old self. As they say, first impression is lasting. But people who really know us and do care about us will readily notice the change. Thanks for your visit and your enlightened point of view. God bless.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Jennifer,
Yes, you are right my friend. It is very hard to erase first impressions on us by people who seldom know us. But what is appalling about this is that they usually communicate their wrong first impression on us to common acquaintances and before we know it, we are already the common topic of gossip mills from all around our community. Of course, the best way to counteract this is to just do the things we ought to do unmindful of what others say about us. In the end the truth will prevail. Thanks for your visit and wonderful comments. God bless you and your lovely family always.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Seaspray,
Thanks for visiting and for your invitation to play. I will go over first to your site to see what play it is. I might be too old for that you know. He, he, he, *lol* God bless.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Zoe Wynz,
Thanks for your visit and your comments. i appreciate that. God bless.

SeaSpray said...

Hi Mel - could you please e-mail me? My address is on my blog. Then I will confirm with you in this blog that that was indeed your adress e-mailing me. Thank you. :)

Wireless said...

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Darlyn said...

my regular visit to you blog.. keep up the good work Mel...

God bless you..

From the Eyes of my Heart said...

its really different when it is the Holy Spirit that changed you. you don't even have to convince people that you've changed it will reflect in EVERYTHING you do because the change that happened is from within- the heart =)

From the Eyes of my Heart said...

its really different when it is the Holy Spirit that changed you. you don't even have to convince people that you've changed it will reflect in EVERYTHING you do because the change that happened is from within- the heart =)

tin-tin said...

true!@ better to show it in your simple ways than shout it out

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Seaspray,
Yes, I already sent you the email you requested. Thanks again and God bless.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Wireless,
Thanks for your visit and your beautiful comments. I really appreciate that. Yes, I will visit your blog and I hope to exchange links with you. Could you subscribe to my Feed Burner either by email or Feed Reader? They're in the upper portion of my side bar. I will subscribe to your blog too if you do the same with mine. Thanks again and God bless.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Darlyn,
Thanks for your visit my friend. I really appreciate that. I hope you will subscribe to my Feed Burner either by email or Feed Reader so that my post will automatically be fed to you by email or Feed Reader. I will do the same with yours if you have your own Feed Burner. Let us both cooperate to increase traffic and ranks to our own respective blogs. Thanks again and God bless.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi From The Eyes Of My Heart,
What a Spirit filled comment you made. What you said is true. People will readily see the change in us if it is due to the handiwork of the Holy Spirit. It will shine like a flicker of light in the darkness of the world. I hope you will subscribe to my Feed Burner Feeds either by email or by RSS Feed Reader. They are in the side bars of my blogs. I will reciprocate your act if you do. Even if you still do not have a Feed Burner feeds in your blog, I will still visit you regularly if you will subscribe to my feeds. I hope you do. Thanks so much and God bless you and your loved ones always my friend.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Tintin,
Words of wisdom from you my friend. Thanks for your visit and your meaningful comments. God bless you and your loved ones always. Please subscribe to my blog through my Feed Burner Feeds either by email or RSS Feed Reader. I will appreciate it very much if you do that. I will reciprocate with your blog if you do that. Even if you still do not have your own Feed Burner, I will still visit your blog regularly. Thanks again and God bless.

From the Eyes of my Heart said...

hi po =) yup yup I just subscribed to your blogs! hope you do the same with mine. All you have to do is type your e-mail ad on the box that says SUBSCRIBE TO FROM THE EYES OF MY HEART its on my side bar somewhere on top. =)

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi From The Eyes of My Heart,
Thank you so much my friend. I will subscribe immediately to your feed via email. And I will be regularly visiting your blog not only from the feeds but also from BlogCatalog. Thanks again. I really appreciate your gesture. God bless.

bb_anne said...

hi there,

I'm done subscribing to all your five blogs...tnx for the offer, I appreciate it a lot...TC

bb_anne said...

feedburner is already installed in my blog at the lower portion of the sidebar...tnx again

Noushy Syah said...

HI MEL,I already subscribe yours via google reader.Thanks My friend.Have a gr8 day yea and keep smiling.

c e e d y said...

Hey Mel

Subscribed to the feed reader with two of your blogs

Random thoughts and Points of View

have a great day friend

Darlyn said...

i already subscribe to your fee burner using live subscriptions...

take care....

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Bb_Anne,
Thanks for subscribing to my blogs. I will do the same for your blog right away. I really appreciate your gesture. Thanks so much and God bless.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Bb_Anne,
I have just gone over to your blog and subscribed to your feed via Google Reader. Thanks so much my friend. May I suggest that you join EntreCard and BlogCatalog. They are the hottest in SEOs right now. I will support your blog everyway I can. Thanks for the support. I really appreciate it. God bless.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Noushy,
Thanks so much my dear beautiful friend. That means so much for me. I will subscribe to your blogs if you also have Feed Burner Feeds. Thanks again and God bless you and your loved ones always.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Ceedy,
Thank you so much my friend. I really appreciate that. I will do the same for your blogs if you have your own Feed Burner Feeds. Thanks again and God bless.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Darlyn,
Thanks for the subscription. I really appreciate that. I will be subscribing to your blogs too. Thanks again and God bless.

Pia said...

i already subscribed to your feedburner here. btw, i have an award for you over at my color it green site. i'll also try to get this subscription thing from feedburner later. thanks.

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Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Pia,
Thanks so much my dear friend for your act of kindness. I really appreciate that. I will link with your blogs in whatever manner my friend. Yes, I will be going over to your site to see that award but I am dedicating that award to my Lord and savior Jesus Christ for whom I write. I suggest that you join BlogCatalog and EntreCard. It's so easy to blog hop from their domain and you can blog hop simultaneously through them. Since I joined BlogCatalog and EntreCard, traffic to my blogs have increased significantly. BlogCatalog is so much better than MyBlogLog. Blog hopping takes only a few seconds with just a click of your mouse. You use these three domains- BlogCatalog, EntreCard and Feedburner and you will significantly improve your traffic and rankings. Thanks so much my friend. I hope you are fine now and that the Lord has granted the secret dreams of your heart. God bless you and your loved ones always.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Tey,
Have you gone through your operation already? I hope you are fine now and have fully recovered. Thanks for subscribing with my feed. I will do the same for you. I hope you will join BlogCatalog and EntreCard. They can help you a lot in improving traffic and ranking to your blogs. Thanks again for your kindness my friend. God bless you and your loved ones always.

*~*Sameera*~* said...

That was a very wise post my friend.Paradigms change and so do we.What was the best yesterday may become the worst tomorrow and vice versa.Hence,it's best to accept people and life as they come.

Take care.God Bless You and your family always.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Sameera,
Long time no hear. Thanks for your visit and your meaningful post. Hope you are fine and in the best of health. God bless you and your loved ones always my friend.

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